Let's get real honest and uncomfortable for a second...
Just for a second!
Heartbreak is one of the worst (if not THE worst) feelings you've ever experienced in your life.
The angst, panic, sleepless nights and lost appetite are daunting symptoms to say the least, while merely getting yourself up out of bed to make coffee, shower, and get to work, feel like impossible tasks.
And it's really hard for those around you to understand your pain and suffering because A) they've never experienced it themselves, and/or B) they think you should easily be over your ex because he (insert whatever gender pronoun applies to you) was/is a LOSER.
You're trying.
Like, really trying by reading self-help books, disconnecting from him on social media, going to therapy, meditating, journaling, exercising more, drinking less, blah blah blah, and
NOTHING'S.
FREAKIN'
WORKING!
Here might be a few reasons why:
You think there's something wrong with you because he no longer chooses to be with you.
You have unresolved shame for the way you showed up (or didn't show up) in the relationship.
You can't recognize the unavailable parts of you that attracted the unavailable parts of him.
You're indulging in confusion about what went wrong: How did it go from off the charts bliss to never speaking again?
You're indeed suffering 24/7 but you're not actively and consciously grieving.
Look, NONE of what I'm suggesting above condones the shitty behavior of people you’ve dated, but after years of finding yourself repeatedly heartbroken and/or single & lonely, all the while watching one friend get engaged after the next, you might have begun to see that perhaps there’s something YOU can be doing differently, in order to attract different…
“Different” meaning…
Like, a grown-up man.
With a job.
Who's emotionally intelligent AND available.
Sexy too.
Who loves you and wants ALL of you.
Weaknesses and flaws included.
That's where I come in.
I became an absolute shell of a human, physically, mentally and emotionally, over one specific heartbreak at 29 and 30 years old, which I now describe as my rock-bottom relationship.
I didn’t even know what emotional abuse was, let alone narcissistic abuse, until I found myself hopelessly unraveling a most tangled web of lies, cheating, gas-lighting, and smear-campaigning of my name, that took away 2 years of my precious life energy, and had me flailing in a multitude of short-lived relationships throughout most of my thirties…
Various healing modalities helped some, but I DREAMED of having a go-to expert or one-stop-shop if you will, to hook into my brain and reveal all my blind-spots that had me repeatedly attracting the same kinds of man-children, and therefore repeatedly getting my heart broken.
After my last heartbreak at 35 years old, I decided I was going to move through that one differently… I actually searched for a heartbreak coach and COULDN’T FIND ONE, and it was right then and there that it hit me:
The almost 10 years of moving through multiple heartbreaks and frustrating singledom, were preparing me to BE the healer and guide I was searching for—not just to myself, but the millions of women out there who I knew were moving through the same exact struggles I was.
Once I nailed down a 5-step process to heal hearts, I then embarked on a next level of deepening my relationship with myself, before I developed a 5-step process to find love—again, by going inward after years of looking OUTSIDE of myself—and I called in Larry, the love of my life, in 2019, who just proposed to me on June 4th 2023.
I wanted to create something where the masses could have access to my processes, after maxing out on my 1:1 coaching practice, 4 years ago. I also wanted to create a much more affordable offer, which led to this course that now includes approximately 75 videos!
So, what does it all entail??
What You Get
4 modules that include 75 videos as well as printable worksheets to support you in your healing-heart/finding-love journey.
Plus a BONUS Dating section!
Course Modules
What You Need to Succeed
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Learn the two main mindset tools you’ll be using throughout the entire course, and when to use which tool.
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A list of do’s and dont's to make you most successful in your thought work.
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Nip blaming yourself in the bud.
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How to know the right length of time it will take for YOUR individual results.
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3 core values to remember throughout the course that will support you in stopping wanting him back and finding someone better.
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How to avoid course overwhelm.
Stop Wanting Him Back
- How to cut contact and why it’s so important.
- Permission to grieve.
- HOW to consciously grieve.
- Introduction to Emotional Freedom Technique. AKA Tapping.
- When to let your heart break & when to self-coach.
- What daily self-coaching looks like
- Manage thoughts on him making you less of a priority.
- Work through the stubborn attachment of wanting him back.
- Manage when you want to bargain and get him back.
- Learn self-compassion for feeling the way you do.
- Release yourself from the grip of him not wanting you.
- Navigate through your desires for revenge.
- What to do when you’re not sure if the work is working.
- Exploration on the concept of forgiveness—is it necessary?
- How to know when you’re ready for the next step to love yourself.
Fall In Love With You
- What dating yourself actually looks like & why it’s important.
- Heal your thoughts on the other woman.
- Release the stigma of being single.
- LOVE being single (a CRUCIAL step before finding him).
- Love who you see in the mirror.
- How to love on your body more.
- Manage any drama about your age.
- How to handle loneliness.
- Boundaries with mutual friends of your ex.
- Get clear on why love IS in the cards for you.
- Find a purpose for YOU and you alone.
- Explore the meaning of what success looks like for you.
- How to handle him/her SMELLING that you’ve moved on. (Don’t they always?!)
- What to do with your longing for ANY man during this special time for you.
- How to know you’re READY to find someone better.
Find Someone Better
- Manage your fear of getting hurt again.
- Stop attracting unavailable men.
- Get clear on who you want to attract.
- Clean up your WHY on who you want.
- Become the woman who will attract your dream guy.
- Create a BELIEF MAN PLAN.
- How to KNOW your ideal guy exists.
- Clean up your drama about the dating apps.
- Create a STELLAR dating profile.
- Learn how to swipe intentionally on the dating apps.
- Consciously evaluate each person you meet.
- Manage your brain worrying about your biological clock ticking.
- How to commit to BEING future you in your ideal relationship while dating in the PRESENT.
- How to move through the fear when you start to like someone.
- Figure out whether this guy is simply busy OR he’s just not available.
- The importance of taking things slowly (doesn’t necessarily mean not sleeping with him too soon) and what that looks like for you.
- Once you’ve found him… THEN WHAT?!
Bonus Dating Guide Videos
As thorough as the Find Someone Better Section is with regards to aligning your MIND to call in your right person, I was noticing that my clients were falling into repeated traps when they started to actively date, that had them slipping into old patterns without even realizing it. (Ie Not actually taking things slowly)
This bonus dating section takes care of all the minutiae that trips up your brain from the moment you match with someone you're intrigued by, all the way through to the point when you decide you're ready for exclusivity. There are no major black and white rules here, because of course timing and pacing will be different for everyone...
HOWEVER, I throw out my personal thoughts and suggestions on what's OK, what isn't, and WHY, so that you don't find yourself in the same position of heartache and frustration, like all the other times. This bonus dating guide reminds you of how powerful and worthy you are of a wonderful partnership, without compromising your standards and expectations--especially when you start to really like someone and it will be natural to want to throw all your hard work out the window! Follow these guidelines to keep you focused on REALLY showing up differently so that you can attract different!
FAQs
This all sounds exactly like what I need, but I'm terrified of letting him go.
What if I'm not heartbroken but I'm single and looking for love?
What if I don't identify as a straight female?
What if I buy the course and decide it's not for me?
What is the cost of the course?
Is there a payment plan?
Testimonials
"Claire’s course is worth 10 times the amount. I’m self-coaching on a whole new level, and am having such profound breakthroughs that even my therapist was like, “wow you did 3 months of inner work in 2 days!” I came up with THIRTY-FIVE reasons why I DON’T want him back, and just that ALONE felt so liberating. I feel like MYSELF again."
-Juliana G.
"When I heard Claire say on one of her podcast episodes, "You're already finding it hard in your heartbreak, so why not do the work that will, yes, also be hard, but will bring you to the light on the OTHER SIDE of your heartbreak?," it was then that I knew I had to invest in her course.
I committed to doing everything she said in the 60+ videos, and I can happily and honestly say that I have never gotten over someone so quickly!
Beyond that, I eventually found my person through following her 5 step-process to find love, and I'm amazed at how he really is all who I set out to look for! Claire really invites you to look at how you've unconsciously been operating in your love-life, and teaches you exactly how to break out of the patterns in order to not just heal your heart and find true love, but become the empowered woman you were meant to become all along, which really was my favorite part of the whole course...
If you're ready to dive in and embrace another layer of "hard" beyond your heartbreak that will absolutely get you out of it, this course is for you."
-Lisa, Ireland
"Prior to buying your course, I did EVERYTHING to try to heal over a 9-year relationship...
I moved, traveled, (literally the Amazon, Antarctica) changed jobs, did therapy, dated messily, prayed, got an RV and traveled again, & MOVED again! Everything.
After hemming and hawing about working with you 1:1, when your course came out I couldn't hesitate any longer. Then 4 months into working your course, I met the love of my life at 35 years old. He took my mom ring shopping!
He is my dreamboat. We have this amazing healing dynamic with each other. Claire, you taught me how to get over heartbreak, raise myself up, and find love... And I know that if I ever have to heal again, I can."
-Dana
"Earlier this year I got serious about finding love after many failed relationships. I decided to finally get out of my own way and listen to an expert with a proven track record. To say Claire’s course did the trick is an understatement. Within one month of diligently following her ‘find someone better’ process, I met an incredible guy, who I'm now married to, and I’m so thankful to have these tools to come back to when I need support on my personal journey.
Thank you, Claire, I couldn’t have done it without you!"
-Jamie M., Los Angeles
"I bought your course after years of going through a very on & off toxic relationship, and I have found this work REMARKABLE. I honestly didn't believe I could ever get over my last heartbreak. It seemed almost impossible. I then did the work to fall in love with my own existence and I have been dating an AMAZING guy for the last five months!
Also, I just had my birthday and was reflecting on where I was only a year ago, desperately hoping my ex would send me a "happy birthday!" text, and now my current person went through the effort of getting a stunning cake delivered and did all these little things to make me feel special.
Thank you for helping me in ways you couldn't possibly imagine!
-Lee, South Africa
"The end of my last relationship was the loneliest and most isolating period of my life. I actually found Claire’s course before I ended my toxic relationship because I knew I couldn’t do it alone, and I had to prepare to move from misery to grief.
She was a lifeline and a partner to guide me to end the agony of this man’s breadcrumbing, and start moving forward to heal. Even just her language to understand my feelings is helpful for me to gain necessary perspective, which feels like a light in the darkness.
I’m honestly still in the healing process, but I know I wouldn’t be this far without Claire's course."
"The one thing that I felt was missing from my great girlfriends & even my fantastic therapist, was the volume of specific experience Claire has in the heartbreak, dating & relationships arena... She REALLY knows what she's talking about! I did find it hard to justify spending that much money on myself, but I ultimately decided that I was worth the investment, and can definitely say it was and STILL IS worth it, as I love having life-long access to revisit the videos when I need to. I've completed 100% of the course and can safely say I became much more equipped, navigating my heartbreak-- especially when residual thoughts like, "What if he magically showed up again?," popped up, and I love that as I now put myself out to date, I don't feel as desperate or as needy. I'm much more discerning and I'm finally putting MY OWN NEEDS FIRST, which is MOST important, as I confidently and more clearly set out to find my ideal partner."
-Lea
"When I invested in Claire's course, I was in a very desperate place and felt lost in regards to dating the wrong men.
I loved how SIMPLE her healing-heartbreak process was when I was feeling so mired in the stuckness, while moving through my on-again/off-again relationship...Cutting contact was so vital AND so hard, but it really was the golden solution to all my issues! And even though the process was hard, Claire still managed to make the course ENTERTAINING! I signed up to heal heartbreak but didn't know I'd find the experience of the course so enjoyable.
My biggest transformation was realizing that I DESERVED to heal... Even when I was at such a low point, Claire gave me hope that if I believed in the work and followed the method, I'd find myself on the other side of the healing... which I did, as well as a new man I'm very happily engaged to!"
"I actually purchased Claire's course AFTER starting to date someone really great (who I'm STILL with now!) because I really wanted to make sure I wasn't missing anything, after having moved through several heartbreaks that were similar to Claire's... I also liked knowing I had backup support on how to handle the pain if, God forbid, this one wasn't to work out either.
I really learned how to discern what were actual red flags VS falling into the trap of IMAGINING red flags, and trusting that I'd be able to see them if they were to pop up. And the Fall in Love With You videos continue to help me take care of myself when I'm not with my partner, and help me deal with any old residual thoughts that create loneliness.
I think the biggest take-away from this course and from listening to Claire for so long, was the notion that I don't have to react from every need or worry that my brain produces. I've really been allowing myself to let this relationship organically unfold, even when I automatically look for a potential fire to put out, and so far, I can honestly say I've never been happier with both myself, and IN this amazing relationship!"
-Amanda
"Your course has been so transformational for me. I did indeed heal heartbreak but also over a lot of sad stories I was replaying about myself. Your tools helped me to uncover these stories and start to change the narrative alongside my work in therapy and in taking real life action. I now see where I thought a man would make my life better and instead of feeling desperate for him in those moments, I reflect and take responsibility for my own life. This is a major shift for me.
I’m so grateful for you and this course because it really felt like you were holding my hand through the worst of it. Your belief and certainty in your process has been instrumental in my sticking with the work in those tough moments when I could have fallen back into a victim mentality. Today I feel empowered, which is everything, and I’m eternally grateful for your part in that. Thank you for doing what you do-- it’s so important!"
-Stephanie
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