Published Articles
How to Tell You’re in Flow WITH YOUR PARTNER
Published by POOSH
I’ve made it my life’s work to help women heal their hearts and find true love, because I truly believe that when you’re in the right romantic partnership for you, life will be that much sweeter and lighter, even when you inevitably endure hard times both within the relationship and outside the relationship.
But how do you know you’re in flow with your partner, versus settling for what you know, leaving you unconsciously asleep at the wheel?
I think it’s all about the day-to-day little things, versus grandiose words and gestures, that make you feel in true alignment with your partner.
SUMMER'S OVER and So Is Your Fling ...
Published by POOSH
You needed it. A light, easy summer. A fun fling.
The fling was hot … not someone you’d ever see yourself settling down with in the long run, but he served his purpose of just making you feel ALIVE again.
Thank you, sir, but now it’s back to reality.
Tough-Love DATING ADVICE
Published by POOSH
The dating game can be a tough one, but there are many ways I observe my clients make the process that much tougher without even realizing it.
They blame the apps. The city they live in. Their age. The men they date who repeatedly don’t show up. Their exes for shaping their awful dating history.
I’m not diminishing any disappointing experiences here …
Trust me.
6 Red Flags They Have “LOST BOY ENERGY”
Published by POOSH
The hard pill to swallow when it comes to attracting man-children is that they’re not necessarily “bad boys,” which makes it difficult to let them go when you start to observe their Peter Pan-like qualities.
I’ve dated many a man-child back in my day (don’t mind me braggin’ over here!). Most of them were well-intentioned, charming people who ended up not being the kind of mature and serious partners I wanted them to be—I held on to some basic gesture like picking me up for a date or calling me on the phone as a sign that they were.
How to be More VULNERABLE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Published by POOSH
Inviting vulnerability into your romantic relationship can feel cripplingly terrifying, but the potential win on the other side of revealing your weaknesses, fears, insecurities, and most painful secrets is being that much closer and connected to your partner, giving you an even better understanding of what unconditional love looks like, which, in my opinion, is the best feeling ever!
I say this from personal experience of being in my ideal relationship now, after moving through a handful of heartaches and rejections over the span of a decade.
WHAT NOT TO DO Post-Breakup
Published by POOSH
I became a heartbreak coach because I am most committed to sharing with women what not to do, thanks to all the ways I made my recovery over a handful of breakups so much worse.
The greatest lesson I’ve learned from my romantic relationships that didn’t work out is that there’s no way around the pain—only through it.
It’s natural to instinctively want to avoid, deny, cover over, and/or repress your pain when moving through a breakup, but I promise you, these coping mechanisms never work in the long run.
Heartbreak coach loved by Kourtney Kardashian reveals her five-step plan for getting over a breakup - from cutting off ALL social media contact to 'grieving like it's a death'
Published by Daily Mail
A glamorous relationship coach who writes for Kourtney Kardashian's website has revealed her five-step plan for getting over heartbreak.
Claire Byrne, 40, is a podcaster and author from Santa Barbara who writes for Kourtney Kardashian's lifestyle site Poosh, and specializes in helping people going through breakups.
Speaking to The Independent.ie, Claire outlined the five-step plan for truly healing and moving on after heartbreak - and says it starts with falling in love with yourself.
How to Date if You DREAD DATING
Published by POOSH
I get it.
The options on the apps *typically* aren’t great.
The ones you’re interested in never seem interested in you.
You’ve got trust issues because of that ex who duped you, and you just don’t have it in you to open yourself up to the pain and heartache you’re finally on the other side of …
But what’s your deeper truth?
My guess is, if you clicked to read this article, you really DO want true love …
Lessons from the heartbreak coach: ‘Break-ups can feel like a death ’
Published by Irish Independent
“I’ve worked as a coach since 2016 and for the last two years I’ve specialised in helping people heal from heartbreak.
I’ve gone through multiple break-ups myself, including one rock-bottom experience. And I still think there’s this shame people feel when they’ve been dumped, or shame that they’re still reeling over someone who probably treated them like shit…”
LOVE OR LUST? an Expert Weighs in
Published by POOSH
Love and lust are tricky to decipher. In most cases, real love will contain lust, and it definitely always starts out that way. And when we engage in sexy activities, bonding hormones like oxytocin and dopamine hit us hard, and that can feel like real, deep, eyes-roll-back-in-your-head love. But how do we know when lust is just lust, and doesn’t have the legs to take us all the way?
Who better to ask than Claire Byrne, otherwise known as The Heartbreak Coach? The queen of seeing through red flags, empowering women to hold fast to their boundaries and trust their intuition unapologetically, she understands how to make one’s way through the fog of relationship newness.
5 HEALTHY WAYS to Get Over Your Ex
Published by POOSH
Let’s face it.
Being heartbroken over a romantic relationship is one of the most painful human emotions to experience.
Not only are you grieving the loss of someone you love, but you’re mourning future plans that now no longer exist.
This sadness can be all-consuming and disrupt other areas of your life, leaving you feeling shameful and anxious, on top of the already crippling overwhelm of heartbreak alone.
I offer five steps below to help you get over your ex in a healthy manner, but keep in mind that healing your heart is NOT a linear process.
GREEN FLAGS TO LOOK FOR in a Potential Partner
Published by POOSH
If you’ve been bruised once or twice in your love life, it’s natural to look out for the red flags you missed in previous relationships when putting yourself out there again.
Editor’s note: Although this article uses male pronouns, the advice applies to all sexual orientations and gender identities.
But don’t forget:
You get what you focus on!
Relationships: Red Flags on dating apps
Published by POOSH
Red flags are important to pay attention to, but don’t let them take over what could actually be a fun process with your potential partner at your literal fingertips.
Finally, don’t take red flags so personally or seriously. If you connect with someone you were really intrigued by, but ultimately, the person didn’t demonstrate much interest in return, in the words of Ariana Grande, “Thank you, NEXT!”
Red flags don’t have to be perceived as some major problem.
They are signs to help keep your eye on the prize of finding someone who’s perfect for you, and not get sucked in by chemistry and outlandish words with no follow-through on actions, which leads me to…
Dating Advice: FRIENDS BEFORE LOVERS
Published by POOSH
Two core values I embrace as a heartbreak/finding-love coach are transparency and authenticity.
I do believe friendship before love is key, but I admit that this isn’t exactly how my personal hell-and-back love-life journey unfolded.
It started 12 years ago, at 28 years old, when a platonic friendship turned into my first adult love that ultimately led to my first excruciating heartbreak.
I then moved on to ANOTHER friend. Even though my spidey senses said, “Run from him as a lover,” I let myself fall for his grandiose words and gestures, only to hit what I now call my rock-bottom heartbreak, at 30 years old.
Cut to 38 years old, when I called in the man of my dreams
DATING WITH ANXIETY:What It Truly Feels Like
Published by POOSH
His texts become less frequent.
His affection seems to have waned.
And you’re convinced he’s having doubts about you.
Cue your anxiety.
That sinking feeling you just can’t seem to get rid of.
The obsessive, insecure thoughts, analyzing his every move or lack of moves, swirl around in your head.
If you’re not thinking, “He’s going to break up with me,” your brain is desperately looking for evidence to support how he’s definitely not going to break up with you.
Does Commitment MAKE YOU NERVOUS?
Published by POOSH
Even in the best of relationships, more often than not, our “stuff” tends to come up.
Old triggers resurface from childhood and/or past relationships.
Insecurities, which may not have anything to do with your partner, bubble up to the surface.
Perhaps he challenges you to progress in your career—only intending to be encouraging—but you interpret that he’s not impressed with your accomplishments.
It’s natural to jump into fight, flight, or freeze mode when triggers are ignited in relationships, so why stay when times get hard?
ANXIETY OVER DATING Mr. Right
Published by POOSH
I became a heartbreak coach because of the almost 15 years I spent attracting multiple Mr. Unavailables, and consistently being at a loss on how to navigate the excruciating pain every time I got my heart broken.
Intellectually, I understood that I was the common denominator, so I found myself baffled by the hot and cold partners I continued to call in, despite my best efforts for me to be the change.
WHEN TO LET GO in a Relationship
Published by POOSH
Sometimes love just isn’t enough. But when your heart is still invested in a partner who turns out to be more work than play, when to let go doesn’t always seem so clear-cut.
It makes so much sense that you want to hold on.
His smell.
The insane attraction.
The side-splitting moments of shared laughter, even if they are few and far between…
And haven’t we all been told that relationships take work?
So if you love him, why wouldn’t you put in the work?
Yes. Relationships do take work, but there are two different kinds of work that can unfold between lovers.
How to Date DURING A PANDEMIC
Published by POOSH
It’s natural to assume your dating life is suffering if you find yourself single during this pandemic.
However, blaming the pandemic will only continue to yield you the unsatisfying outcome of not finding your person.
I coach from the belief that it’s your thoughts that create your results—not the pandemic or even the dating apps that seem to have a very limited selection of appealing prospects, if any at all, that hold you back from creating your ideal relationship.
Truth be told, over the last nine months of this nightmare we’ve all been enduring, I’ve seen more successful love stories unfold than I’ve seen in the three years I’ve solely been coaching on heartbreak, dating, and relationships.
How Covid Has Changed The Dating Rules
Published by Molly Sims
I coach from the belief that your thoughts create your results, so I immediately went to work, shifting their minds to focus on how social distancing could actually SERVE their dating lives, versus HURT their dating lives.
The results speak for themselves. I’ve seen more successful love stories unfold for my clients over the last 9 months than I have in the last five years of being a coach.
Here are 4 dating rules that have changed because of COVID 19, and in my opinion, for the better…
COVID CRUSH or the Real Thing?
Published by POOSH
As if it isn’t hard enough to tell what his motives are without there being a pandemic when you’re newly dating someone, how can you know if this budding relationship is the real deal during a pandemic??
It’s a tricky predicament for singles looking for true love right now… you want to put your health and safety first and not haphazardly date multiple strangers off the internet, but you also want to make sure who you end up with is in it for the right reasons.
So, let’s say you’ve moved past the stage of figuring out that you do want to commit to each other, but you wonder if making it official at a quicker pace than normal was inspired mostly out of a safety measure, rather than out of a genuine desire to be exclusive.