Heartbreak In Your Ideal Relationship

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Heartbreak Podcast - Heartbreak In Your Ideal Relationship

Frankly, I was struggling in finishing this episode with all the negative thoughts I have, not to mention the pandemic and these couple of weeks that there is a lot of going on with the black lives matter movement. This is a contradiction to everyone listening especially to those who are in pain that they might think that the work that I do doesn't work. How am I experiencing heartbreak in an ideal relationship anyway?  

I have my not-so-great-Claire moments with my partner that I feel like I don't deserve him. After digging deep, this thought all boils down to my past experiences where I was used to being rejected and unloved, and then there's this guy who would just wrap his arms around me, forgives, and accepts me when I snapped. This hit me with unnerving shame and guilt because my brain is not used to being loved despite my flaws. It thinks that this is impossible. Talk about how my brain is choosing to selectively forget that part and looking for the next shoe to drop because it is not used to these heavenly and amazing moments. But, I finally realize that this boils down to not spending time in gratitude and appreciation for how far I've come. 

All I want of you is to know your worth. There's no exception to the rule, you will still feel heartbroken regardless of having your ideal partner or not, or your dream job or not. Being a heartbreak coach doesn't exempt me either. Pain is inevitable. When you cleaned up one area of your life and you turned that around, all the other shit is going to open up. Trust me, it works. It worked amazingly for me.  

Topics in this episode

• Why coaching is vital for me 

• Why our brains freak out 

• What is a thought download? 

• When old moments come to the surface and how it affects your relationship 

• Relish the gratitude and appreciation on how far you’ve become 

• Embrace your worth and the amazing transformation you’ve had 

• We are not exempt from pain and heartbreak despite how happy we are in our life 

Resources

• My heartbreak story: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/blog/my-heartbreak-story 

• Heartbreak for black lives: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/blog/heartbreak-for-black-lives 

• Stacey Boehman: https://staceyboehman.com/ 

• Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/ 

• Elizabeth Gilbert: https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/ 

• Byron Katie: https://thework.com/ 

• Lyndsey Mango: https://lindseymangocoaching.com/ 

PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

Editing and show notes by Roth Media