Am I Too Picky?

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Heartbreak Podcast - Am I Too Picky?


Let’s say you’ve been healing your heart and you’re ready to get out there and find your person, you might be considering what are the situations that are negotiable versus non-negotiables. Or maybe you’ve been dating, but just haven’t found Mr. or Ms. Right yet, and you begin to question if perhaps you are too picky. This was definitely me in my 20s and 30s, and I’m surprised I haven’t covered this topic before! In this episode, let’s take a look at what are your non-negotiables, where you can create some wiggle room, and why I believe you should. 

Before I met Larry, the love of my life, I definitely had a list of things that I would consider a no-go, and I wouldn’t even say that Larry necessarily checks all the boxes that I thought I was looking for. But now, I am in my ideal relationship, and I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is my person, and that list of checkboxes doesn’t even matter any more. So let’s look at your list and see where we can change your thoughts so that you can create the result of calling love in. 

Topics In This Episode:

  • When he’s great on paper, but he’s not your person 

  • Dating when you still have old wounds and traumas

  • It’s also a problem if you aren’t being picky enough 

  • Identifying where you have a lack of love for yourself and how it is manifested in your dating life

  • Getting clear on your negotiables versus non-negotiables

  • Being “too picky” isn’t a badge of honor

I hope this episode helps you identify what are your hard “no”s that you might consider giving more wiggle room to. With this new information, I’m inviting you to be more open and flexible, to love your reasons for the non-negotiables, and at the same time, hold your idea of your ideal person a little loose. Be open. Be flexible. Your ideal person may be so much better than what you think they should be for you, in order for you to be happy and in love. 

If you need help with finding clarity on your negotiables and non-negotiables, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as access to over over 60 videos of coaching. To learn more and apply, go to

PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

Editing and show notes by Roth Media


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